black men becoming gay - is it a trend? - black gay men's blog

Is gay becoming a trend among black men? No, I haven't lost my mind, just sharing a video I stumbled upon. I don't agree with the whole notion of anyone "becoming gay" or "turning gay",  nor do I think that being molested makes you gay, straight or bisexual. However, I do applaud this straight brother for trying to educate himself and get a better understanding. He asked black gay men to comment, but got a lot of heat because I think most just heard those "trigger words" and got mad. No one in their right mind would "choose" a lifetime of the stigma and exclusion many black gay men experience. It might look all glossy on the outside, but many of us know the struggle, pain, religious...

Advice for Black Gay Men - He Prefers Threesomes - Black Gay Men's Blog

The Black Gay Men's Blog Advice Column is now back in session. Apologies to all those who emailed me while the blog was down. I responded to some of you by email, on Facebook etc but it was impossible to respond to every individual email. The most recent emails and those we think would benefit other visitors will be published on the blog. We kick things off with an email from "Sean", a 23 year old caught up in a sexual situation he isn't very comfortable with and all in the name of "love". He Prefers His Homie - Black Gay Love & Sex Advice Needed Dear Storm, I have emailed you a few times. I don't know if you are giving advice while the blog is still down, but I remember...

National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day - Black Gay Men's Blog

So it's here again, National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day - but what does it mean to you and to black gay men in general? Whether it makes you think about your choices, you decide to get tested or you decide to get involved somehow, it should mean something. It might be a good time to reach out to that friend who is positive and just make sure he/she is okay. If you are HIV positive, maybe today will make you think about starting treatment or being more adherent(if you are already on meds). It is easy for us to be complacent about HIV/AIDS in 2015, but National Black AIDS Day reminds us that with the high rates in our community, the fight is far from over. For many, it has just begun....

Black Gay Men's Blog is back

Exactly four years ago, on February 7, 2011, Black Gay Men's Blog was launched. It was(as it is today) National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day, so I thought it was a good idea to relaunch the blog on the very same day. We managed to salvage pretty much all the posts from the first year, but all later posts were lost. Never mind, we have a whole lot more coming your way in 2015.   The last 2.5 - 3 years have been quite challenging, so much so that I knew I couldn't give Black Gay Men's Blog the attention it deserved. I needed to get my health, life and "house" in order - more about all that as we go along. It feels good to be back and I want to thank you guys for your support....

Nigeria Anti-Gay Bill - Black Gay Men Fight Homophobia

Unless you have been living under a rock, you have probably heard that Nigeria's senate recently passed a bill, the Nigerian Same Sex Marriage Bill 2011,  making gay marriage a criminal offence, punishable by 14 years in prison. The Anti-Gay Bill, as it has been dubbed also seeks to punish supporters of gay marriage and anyone who officiates or is involved in said marriage, by 10 years in prison. As if that wasn't bad enough, anyone found guilty of operating a gay club also faces 10 years in prison, without fine. The prison sentence also extends to those  "register, operate or participate in gay…organizations." So, technically, if  Black Gay Men's Blog were in Nigeria, we could all be...

The Strange Thing About The Johnsons - black gay incest and sexual abuse

Black Gay Men's Blog has dealt with incest and sexual abuse in the past, but I have been meaning to get your reactions to this short movie, The Strange Thing About The Johnsons. I'm sure some of you have already seen it and I meant to post it on the blog a couple of weeks ago - better late than never. I really don't want to say too much about it, for those, who haven't seen this 29 minute short, directed by Ari Aster. It is disturbing, on a variety of levels and reactions to The Strange Thing About The Johnsons have been strong. It is about abuse and gay incest in an affluent African-American family. Some black people were mad, because it was directed by a non-black individual, some were...

black gay mens' blog presents the HIV and AIDS health show on Papi Chulo Radio

Black Gay Men's Blog and BMK (Brooklyn Men Konnect) are sponsoring the World AIDS Day Health Show, tonight at 8pm Eastern on Papi Chulo Radio. A panel of HIV activists and health care professionals get together to discuss HIV/AIDS awareness and prevention.  Panelists include, Kevin (Kaoz) Moore (Out Hip Hop Artist & HIV/AIDS Activist), yours truly aka Storm,  Justin B. Terry Smith (HIV Activist/Author), Tree Alexander (National Speaker on HIV) and Dr Cary English(HIV/AIDS Specialist). The panel is moderated by Papi Chulo and Amore. If you can't catch it tonight, be sure to check out the replays every Friday in December(starting tomorrow) at 7.30pm Eastern. CHECK IT OUT ON PAPI...

World AIDS Day - black gay men get tested

As we all know, today is World AIDS Day and Black Gay Men's Blog urges black gay and bisexual men and MSM to get tested. There is a lot of power in knowing your HIV status, it can save your life and prevent you from passing the virus on to others, in our already ravaged community. If you are nervous, call a friend and arrange to go together and support one another. There are testing centers all over the country, so there really is no excuse. If you don't know where the closest center to you is, then you are in luck. Starting from today, to commemorate World AIDS Day, Get Tested ads, from the CDC, will be appearing on Black Gay Men's Blog. It is a campaign targeting black gay men and MSM, so...

Black Gay Men's Blog says thanks at Thanksgiving

Black Gay Men's Blog wishes a Happy Thanksgiving and Thanksgiving weekend to all who celebrate it. By the time you read this, most of you would have finished stuffing your stomachs with turkey and all the trimmings. Many would have had a litle too much to drink and had the obligatory family holiday fights. For me, Thanksgiving marks the countdown to the end of the year and is a time to take stock and give thanks. We all talk about giving thanks on this day, but even though we utter the words, very few of us are truly thankful. At least, not all the other days of the year. I tend to get a little more introspective from Thanksgiving until the end of the year, so I thought I'd share a few...

gay sex and sexual identity

The previous blog post about black gay and bisexual men seducing straight men prompted a lot discussion on Facebook and on Skype. I decided to start a separate dialog, because there was a lot of focus on whether or not a man could be considered straight if he has had gay sex. For me, the previous blog post had more to do with wanting someone, who was unattainable and lusting after straight men, who are often perceived as sexually superior, than whether or not straight men who might engage in gay sex are still heterosexual. The minute straight men are mentioned on Black Gay Men's Blog, some of us immediately lose sight of the totality of the article and focus on whether or not straight men,...

black gay men seducing straight men

It's advice time again at Black Gay Men's Blog, as Zamo, a bisexual black male, needs help seducing his straight neighbor. Gay and bisexual men lusting after straight dudes is nothing new and as long as same sex attraction exists, there will be a black gay man(or in this case, bi black male) trying to get in the pants of some heterosexual male. Why Zamo thought I would be the one to ask for advice, when it comes to the art of seducing an uninterested straight male, is beyond me, but he frantically and disturbingly emailed me 6 times in the space of 24 hours. One would have thought he was going to drop dead - if he didn't get to wrap his lips around the penis of this straight neighbor, who...

black gay men - friendships and relationships in a socially challenged digital age

Black Gay Men's Blog explores friendships, dating and relationships in this digital age of Facebook, Twitter and texting, which has left many of us socially challenged. It is quite ironic that with all the current means of communication, many black gay men have been left unable to and unwilling to communicate and socialize effectively in the real world. As the popularity of social network sites like Facebook and Twitter continue to explode, black gay friendships and relationships lose warmth and depth. Black gay and bisexual men are by no means the only ones affected by the digital age, everyone is - and it is not just "the young folks" either. However, the purpose of this article is to get...

black gay coming out story - Shon and bisexual dad

Just wanted to share another Youtube coming out story with readers of Black Gay Men's Blog. As we all know, coming out can be quite nerve wracking and should be done whenever the individual is ready, whether that is at a younger age or later in life. One of the concerns I often hear from black gay men about coming out, is the reaction of their fathers(for those who are close to or have present fathers), which was why I found this coming out story particularly interesting. The young man, Shon, had already come out to his mom and brother, when he was 12 - and heard the common speech, it a sin, it a phase etc. So, he got scared and decided to say he was straight after that. At 14, he came out...